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There is the negative option that your friend or friends are setting up the only lonely, desperate people they know in a vain effort to pair them off or the positive option that you have caring friends who know you and your prospective date very well and truly think that you will hit it off
Well after spending the morning bludgeoning a piece of reluctant rusty peice of automotive junk into submission with a sledgehammer. My mind is now a little more focussed.
is that a euphemism!!
if so I would get yerself out, sound like you might do yourself an injury out of sheer frustration
1) tell her you are a mod on here...she will leave first
2) think of a boring subject and just discuss it to death...she will leave first
3) drink loads, she will leave first but you won't remember anything about it
4) get someone to call you at a set point in time with an emergancy.
Or just grow a set, and if you dont like her just say you dont have as much in common as you hoped, nice meeting her and walk out. Are you too much of a wimp? Doesnt have to be rude, but a simple this isn't working for you, good luck and go is all it takes. Man up! Or recognise you're both a bit nervous and turn it to your advantage, people tend to be quite agreeable to a strong lead in those situations....
Or just grow a set, and if you dont like her just say you dont have as much in common as you hoped, nice meeting her and walk out. Are you too much of a wimp?
I don't think I'm being wimp here but I think thats is actually a pretty sh**ty and inconsiderate thing to say and do to stand someone up like that in middle of a date (hence the problem with exit strategies) .
That is a sure way to knock a person's self confidence IMO. Nobody deserves that, no matter how unattractive/incompatible/whatever.
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Some people get by with a little understanding, some people get by with a whole lot more.
Man up Ali and go with the flow it may work out good or it may not,you have to take that risk to find out.Just treat it as a casual meet with no expectations.If its not for you then be honest rather than make up some bullsh1t excuse about leaving the oven on etc.
I'm sure if it ends up being the other way round,you would want that person to be honest with you.
There is the negative option that your friend or friends are setting up the only lonely, desperate people they know in a vain effort to pair them off or the positive option that you have caring friends who know you and your prospective date very well and truly think that you will hit it off
Yep that is what I would be thinking.
Anyway they way I see it once you are past 30 the only women who are left are either ugly or have some major issues.
I don't think I'm being wimp here but I think thats is actually a pretty sh**ty and inconsiderate thing to say and do to stand someone up like that in middle of a date (hence the problem with exit strategies) .
That is a sure way to knock a person's self confidence IMO. Nobody deserves that, no matter how unattractive/incompatible/whatever.
And therein lies your problem. Because you think that way, you are making a huge performance out of it. I specifically said without being rude, and yet you have taken it to be rude. If you cant be open and honest with someone when you first meet, then you are starting off on completely the wrong foot IMHO. The comments I use are specifically non judgemental of the other person. You say "middle of a date", to me that implies you have a set timetable for the evening, an allocation of time. How structured and dull.
Its actually your beliefs that are serving you poorly here...
And therein lies your problem. Because you think that way, you are making a huge performance out of it. I specifically said without being rude, and yet you have taken it to be rude. If you cant be open and honest with someone when you first meet, then you are starting off on completely the wrong foot IMHO. The comments I use are specifically non judgemental of the other person. You say "middle of a date", to me that implies you have a set timetable for the evening, an allocation of time. How structured and dull.
Its actually your beliefs that are serving you poorly here...
HTH
Well tbh the context of your prior post was rude and inconsiderate to me. So from that i figured that's what you consider to be an aceptable manner to talk to other people.
For example telling me to grow a set is acceptable to you but then you say not to be rude or inconsiderate? OK
Last edited by ALi-B; 05 February 2012 at 23:57.
Reason: Damn phone
There is the negative option that your friend or friends are setting up the only lonely, desperate people they know in a vain effort to pair them off or the positive option that you have caring friends who know you and your prospective date very well and truly think that you will hit it off
I am 50:50 on this. I've since got wind she's had a string arseholes for boyfriends. So I'm the rebound guy. Hmmm. This could go either way, were the men really arseholes or was she the one with the issue? I know the obvious answer is to go and find out
I think a good number of people here have had previous partners who seem ok at first but then turn after a while, be it after a few months or even years. Does make me wonder.
ALi-B! just do it. What have you really got to loose, yes she might not be the one for you but on the other hand she might be. You wont know unless you go. Just treat it as a night out, keep it light and it be ok. The woman who is going on the blind date with you will be feeling the same i would of thought.
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shame really as she was nice
